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The five love languages

Understand these and your relationships will be easier to manage.

Raphael Francisco
Raphael Francisco

Published: 5 April 2016, 1:20 AM

People naturally tend to express love in the way that they prefer to receive love. So if you wish to make your loved ones happy, speak their love language.

According to Dr Gary Chapman’s book, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate, there are five ways to express and experience love.

1. Quality time

If someone’s primary love language is spending quality time, they are fond of being with you and doing things with you. It is simply not enough to spend time with them – they must have your undivided attention.

 

MAKE SURE YOUR LOVED ONES HAVE YOUR UNDIVIDED ATTENTION.

 

When you are with them, drop everything you are doing and live in the moment. Avoid using your phone too much (or at all) when talking to them, because to focus solely on them shows how much you value them.

2. Words of affirmation

As cheesy as this may sound, it means the world to some people when they are complimented, assured, and encouraged by the words you say.

Words are powerful; they have the power to bring people up and bring them down. Be sincere and generous in your compliments, and you will make your loved ones happy.

 

WORDS HAVE POWER. USE THEM WISELY.

 

3. Gifts

It’s normal to give gifts to our loved ones, but what we might not understand is how particularly important it is to those with gifts as their primary love language.

This is not meant to be mistaken for materialism; It doesn’t matter how expensive a gift is, even simple ones will do as long as they are sincere and from the heart.

Make your loved ones feel special by giving them nice presents on their birthdays, your anniversaries, and even on “normal” days to show that you treasure them.

 

GIVING GIFTS IS A UNIVERSAL SIGN OF AFFECTION TO THE ONES YOU LOVE. PHOTO CREDIT: PIXABAY.COM

 

4. Acts of service 

“Actions speak louder than words” hold true for certain individuals who like it when their loved ones do things for them like washing up the dishes, mopping the floor, or running errands for them.

Don’t wait for them to ask you for help with chores, errands, and carrying things; take the initiative to do it for them.

 

IF A LADY IS CARRYING TOO MANY THINGS, OFFER TO CARRY IT FOR HER.

 

5. Physical touch

This mostly applies to romantic relationships, and does not only imply bedroom action.

Physical touch is a by-product of emotional intimacy. A peck on the cheek, holding hands, or even a warm hug can make those whose primary love language is physical touch feel really happy.

 

JUST DON’T OVERDO IT IN PUBLIC IF IT MAKES THEM FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE. PHOTO CREDIT: CUREJOY.COM

 

Observing closely the way your loved ones express love to others, finding out what they complain about the most, and seeing what they request from their significant other gives us an idea as to what love language they possess.

By understanding the different love languages, we can develop stronger and healthier relationships with our loved ones.


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